Facebook: Some people love it, others hate it, and then there are those who – like me – are sucked in by it but don’t know what they’re actually doing there. It was great for keeping in touch with family and friends overseas or interstate who I might not get to see so often, as well as keeping my finger on the pulse for all uni matters. And let’s not forget the fact that there is Alexie RicRac and Little Goldfish, both of which I am trying to build a social media presence for. So why then did I decide to give up Facebook?
I’d seen a few Facebook friends do it over the seven or eight years I had been a member of the online community that you could build from your family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances, cats and dogs, and I’d always contemplated giving Facebook the ghost but I’d never followed through on those thoughts. I’d given it up for a month once and really enjoyed the peace and calmness it gave me. One day in December 2014 I decided that enough was enough and it was time to let it go. I gave my friends and family (and any cats and dogs) a few weeks’ notice to ask me for my contact details if they wanted to stay in touch, and just after midnight on 1 January 2015, I deactivated my personal Facebook account.
Why did I deactivate it? I hated that I had let it take hold of my life. I’d tried weaning myself off of it without much success so I knew that I had to do it cold turkey. I admit though that in order to keep Alexie RicRac and Little Goldfish alive on Facebook I had to create a personal profile but that’s where the buck stops: I don’t let it rule my life any more. It’s got one profile picture, no cover photo, no posts to the page, 11 friends, is a member of a few business groups, and it doesn’t like too many pages. Why do I have 11 friends though if I’m not wanting to be on Facebook? That’s a fair and reasonable question and can be answered through the following:
- One is The Mister who also has capability to admin Alexie RicRac and Little Goldfish
- Three are girlfriends whom I own and run a small online community with (when the community’s down, we need to communicate)
- Three are Little Goldfish business friends with whom I network and communicate with about business practices, seek feedback for designs, et cetera
- One had to add me to a particular online craft buy/sell group I had banned my original personal account from
- One is a university friend with whom I run a university club – he’s the president, I’m the secretary (we have our executive group on Facebook, and sometimes his phone doesn’t work)
- One is a fellow of the pin up/vintage community, and
- One is a small business classmate who can help get the word out about Alexie RicRac
I didn’t enjoy Facebook any more and am a firm believer in letting go of something that no longer gives you joy or is of no worth to you. Since quitting Facebook, I’ve had lots more time to dedicate to family and friends, Alexie RicRac and Little Goldfish, being outside and getting fresh air, and most importantly, being present.
In January, I also took part in Bethany from The Glamorous Housewife‘s 30 Days of Willpower course. It was fabulous. My goal was to get dressed every day in January (unemployed and on uni holidays makes for a pretty lazy human being). I did pretty well, except for the days I was really sick at the end of the month. I felt though that I didn’t get all that I could from Bethany’s course because I had given up Facebook and although I was a member of the Facebook group Bethany set up, I didn’t spend too much time on the computer. It’s my goal to revisit the materials Bethany provided to the group soon so I am able to address the areas in my life that are lacking in willpower.
Is there something you want to quit or not give as much credence to in your life?